Comfort Christian Counseling works with wives of sex addicts, as well as couples. Ella Hutchinson, Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical Sex Addiction Specialist, combines her professional training with her personal experience to help wives in the way only someone who has been there can.
Ella takes her approach to treating spouses of sex addicts from the authors of the book, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, Marsha Means, MA, and Barbara Steffens, PhD, LPCC.
Until now, it has been assumed that the spouse of a sex addict is co-dependent and is therefore automatically labeled a co- sex addict. Many, if not most, therapists still work from this viewpoint.
While some spouses of sex addicts are codependent (as are many people who are not spouses of addicts), new research shows us that the spouses suffer from trauma after discovering their partner's addiction. This trauma is rarely recognized or addressed by professionals. Seventy percent of women studied met criteria for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD. This is a disorder that needs treatment and will not go away on its own.
If you have discovered your husband has a pornography or sexual addiction, you do not have a disease. Most likely, you have been traumatized.